Category: Etiquette

Your First ‘Kink’ Event by Belladonnax

Your First ‘Kink’ Event by Belladonnax Here are some notes I wrote a while back which were going to be used for an Adrenachrome workshop, but I’ve decided to put them up in here. I figure there might be something helpful for someone. We are all everyday people. • It’s fine to use the name […]

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The Top Ten Breeches of BDSM Etiquette By Mistress Ren

The Top Ten Breeches of BDSM Etiquette By Mistress Ren Growing up, we are taught the importance of etiquette – societal etiquette, business etiquette, etiquette for Grandma’s house, etc. Good etiquette is our way of showing others that we respect them. Having been in the scene for quite a while, I’ve witnessed my share of […]

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The BDSM Cult/How to be a Predator by CocoJones

The BDSM Cult/How to be a Predator by CocoJones   My entry into the kink community brought me into immediate contact with scouts for what I like to call the BDSM cult. Recruiters for abusive relationships all under the name of sexual discovery. After several run-ins and some trips down some fairly disturbing paths (ah, […]

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Safewords: Red, Yellow, Green Are Just Words – BDSM for Beginners

BDSM for Beginners – Safewords Red, Yellow, Green Are Just Words and Mean NOTHING by Themselves! by Caged Heart Beginning Explorers in the BDSM World hear a lot of advice from more experienced ‘players’. Unfortunately, a lot of that advice is worth nothing more than it costs…NOTHING. A person new to BDSM might hear, “Oh, […]

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Munch technique

This is a Journal entry from Malbon’s writings on Fetlife. Munches are just great aren’t they? A free social event where you can meet other kinky people, maybe even find that elusive compatible partner. The door is open, and you are welcome. But it didn’t work out so well, did it? You felt left out, […]

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Munch Etiquette

Munch Etiquette When people ask how to become involved in kink or how to learn, the first thing they are told is “go to a munch!” Munches are a great first step, but like all first steps, they can be intimidating if you don’t know what to expect or how to behave. What is a […]

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How not to be shitty at parties – voyeurs and exhibitionists edition by SecondCircleTO

How not to be shitty at parties – voyeurs and exhibitionists edition SecondCircleTO original post I’m putting this here, on the events profile, because this is a thing that profoundly irks me, and I want people who go to our events to get it – and the vast majority of you do. Also, for the […]

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BDSM Safety and Common Sense

BDSM Safety and Common Sens Note: This is not intended as a “safe-sex” site. There are plenty of those available elsewhere on the Web. The focus of this page is narrower; it’s intended as a general, common-sense safety guide for newcomers to BDSM. General Guidelines • If you are going to play with bondage or […]

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DO’s & DONT’s To Party/Event Play

Recently I attended a small play party. It was afterwards I decided that perhaps some folks might need a little guidance or suggestion on how to go about getting/seeking/asking for “play” appropriately in these social situations. Let me begin by stating that I understand that attending any type of party or event can be extremely […]

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Basic Scene Protocols By SirMagic

Basic Scene Protocols By SirMagic Most people who have entered the scene within the last couple of years really have no idea of what constitutes Basic Protocols nor what they specifically are. Over the years I have watched as the heterosexual BDSM scene has become more an more “causal” to the point where even Emily […]

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